EVEN in a thoroughly urban setting — maybe especially there — people want a patch of the outdoors to call their own, according to Dean Geibel, a New Jersey developer whose company, Metro Homes, is based in thoroughly urban Hoboken. “Everybody wants a place to have a cup of coffee in the morning,” he said. “They need a spot where they can see the sky, and breathe the air. “Or maybe,” he added, with a less embracing fervor, “somebody wants to be able to smoke a cigar from time to time.” Increasingly, New Jersey developers are going above, if not…